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5 Tips to Weed Out Hate: Planting Respect

How many times have you heard someone say, you're growing like a weed? You may even be guilty of saying it yourself. But here's the million-dollar question, do weeds really grow that fast? Well, actually, yes they do. You see, weeds very quickly and very easily adapt to disturbed habitats. And once they take root, weeds are an absolute chore to get rid of.

Fundamentally, the key to getting rid of weeds is preventing them. One way to prevent weeds is to smother the seeds with mulch. says, "By adding mulch to your garden you can increase the yield of your crops and make your garden look neater and cleaner."

Hmmm. Let's think about this for a minute. Aren't weeds kind of like hate? Hate thrives in life disturbances and once it takes hold, it's a mighty force to reckon with. Much like how mulch smothers weeds to produce a more productive, neater and cleaner garden, can't the same be said for respect and hate? Doesn't respect smother hate to produce a more productive and ultimately happier you?

Urban Dictionary defines hate as the most extreme case of dislike, often incorrectly associated with anger. And Body Bliss Central says that if you have self-respect you fully love yourself and when you don't have self-respect you feel anger. So, it seems that the key to weeding out hate, is clearly planting respect.

American writer, Madeleine L'Engle once said, "Hate hurts the hater more'n the hated." So, let's get rid of the hate. Here are 5 tips to help you weed out hate and plant respect for a healthier and better you.

  • Start small - setting small, attainable goals is the first step to building confidence.
  • Utilize talents - regularly doing something you are good at reinforces your abilities and strengths.
  • Take care - maintaining a healthy lifestyle helps you get fit and stay healthy. And when you feel well physically, doesn't that help you feel better mentally and emotionally? Strive for healthy - not perfection (if there really is such a thing).
  • Forgive others - letting go of anger and resentment doesn't mean you condone past hurts, it just means you are working through the pain.
  • Use affirmations - saying something nice about yourself - to yourself - is a reminder that you like who you are. If you have a hard time finding something to say, start off with the infamous words of Saturday Night Live's Stuart Smalley, "I'm good enough. I'm smart enough. And doggone it, people like me."